You are spoiled with choices today. Choose wisely.
If the troubles of the past, or the hurtful actions of others, still cling to your heart and cause you pain, take kind and thoughtful steps towards healing yourself, or seeking the advice of a professional person who can guide you in this direction. The goal here is to limit the impact of your past emotional baggage on the positive steps that you are trying to take towards the future.
If you want to influence other people, it pays to listen to them first before you speak; their story will help you to understand them, and their needs, better.